Rough Men

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Girls like to be treated with firmness.
Boys who are rough are sought by girls.

Interesting confession of a modern woman:

Do we prefer bad men?

2010

I like good things. I presume that we all do. I have never met anyone who prefers to eat bad eggs for breakfast, or drive a bad car, or endure bad-hair days. When I visit the shops, I carefully select all the good stuff and leave out the bad ones. Sometimes, shop attendants lure me into buying damaged goods, i.e. the rejects, for very low prices, but I refuse. I’d rather not have anything bad in my possession. Having said this, I wonder if it is true then that women prefer ‘bad’ men. Do we really?

Bad men! What does this mean? Some say “bad” in this context is subjective. Is it really? I define bad men as men who are irresponsible, violent, without the fear of God, dishonest, disrespectful, uncaring, unreliable, fraudsters, womanisers, liars... if this is so, how can we love them?

Time and again, single women have been accused of being constantly attracted to these bad men. They say that we have remained single because we prefer men who do not have good intentions for us, and who end up breaking our hearts. Could this have an element of truth to it?

Is it true that we prefer bad men? Is this innate? Even a four-year-old seemed to like them bad! Have I dated bad boys/men in the past? Did I find them particularly attractive because they were bad? Did I prefer them to the wimps, the nerds, the wusses, and the so-called ‘religious brothers’?

I wouldn’t admit to anything here. However, I think we shouldn’t go with bad men. Every woman wants her man to treat her right and make her feel like a queen. If this is true, then we must resolve to date/marry only the good men; decent men... even the wimps, the nerds, the wusses, and our ‘religious brothers’ will do in this instance provided they are good. If we want goodness, we must love good men who know how to give it.

I admit, it could be attractive to have a man who is a little rough around the edges, fearless, super-adventurous, impulsive, unpredictable... but then, he must also be a good-natured man. He must love what is right and what is true. He must not be like that four-year-old (although his own ‘badness’ was cute).

Single women, we must open our eyes and be true to ourselves. The moment we spot bad traits in men, without thinking: ‘it doesn’t matter’, ‘everyone else does it’, ‘he will change, ‘things will be better’, we must take to our heels! You and I should have the best. We all deserve good men.

As for me, I think ‘bad’ in this context is not subjective; we’re all smart enough to decipher the difference between good men and the bad ones. By Miss Ejire.

Comment: Single women are naive. They go for gentlemen. Experienced women are sharp. They go for rough boys. These ladies like to be man-handled. They do not like soft males. Sissies cannot handle anything but prams. Even these they keep crashing.

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